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Help prevent tiara slippage…Keep your head held high!

The idea of following your dreams, or following your heart, has spiritual significance for me. It’s not about romance, becoming famous, money, finding a career or job, or becoming successful as the world defines it.

After I began having profound spiritual experiences many years ago, my goal became to learn how to listen and follow the Continue Reading »

Be gentle with your precious self. Treat yourself like you would your own child or your best friend.

My mother became ill when I was eight years old and passed when I was thirteen. She left behind six children; the youngest was seven. My dad was an often violent yet functioning alcoholic who had never done a load of laundry or cooked a meal, let alone know how to parent six children. He was deeply wounded from his own childhood as well.

When I got older, I realized I had to learn how to parent that very wounded child that still lived in me. One of the first things I learned was to give myself permission to not be okay sometimes and to simply care for myself. I really had no reference point for someone caring for me. This was the beginning of healing for me.

My dad passed when I was still pretty young as well, but we had a profound healing of our relationship just before he transitioned. I wouldn’t change a thing about my childhood or my father. I am deeply grateful for all of it.

Here’s an exercise I found very helpful many years ago that I invite you to try.

Sit down, close your eyes, and get quiet. Imagine you have a pile of responsibilities, burdens, and regrets sitting next to you. In front of you is a brilliant, all-loving light a short distance away.

Pick up each specific person, thing, circumstance, or condition and carry it to the outstretched arms of this all-loving light. It does not matter if it’s a big or a tiny thing. It does not matter what it is, how long ago, or whether it’s some concern for the future or a past regret. Include them all in your pile.

Say something like this as you carry them all one by one to the light: “I can’t take care of this. I was mistaken. I never could, and neither did you expect me to. I trust it to you. You have been waiting for me to give it to you.”

Make sure you also carry all those you love, feel responsible for, and worry about, and place them in this light. Believe me, they will be in much better hands.

You might want to have a fresh box of tissues nearby.

Angel messages are everywhere–a little nudge, a feeling, a clear inner voice, as well as detours and roadblocks when necessary. But we’re like little children who sometimes run ahead of their guardians, thinking they know the way. Most of my problems (if not all) were when I forged ahead, believing I could be my own guide instead of listening for direction.

I might just be slow, but I’ve found it takes a lot of practice to recognize I don’t know, step back, and let inner Wisdom lead the way. I have to constantly remind myself that I have no idea what is best for me or anyone else. Too many times, I’ve thought I really needed or wanted something, and it turned out to be like a baby playing with matches. (Yep, I often cried when they were pried from my fingers.)

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Most of us are constantly see-sawing between the past and the future. The past is gone, and we actually never reach the future either; the only place we can ever live is in this moment.

But how do we let go of the past? The only way I know is to endeavor to stay in the now. The now is more than just what we seem to see, hear, and can touch; it is an awareness of so much more than that. The real now is a spiritual awareness of oneness that puts everything of the past and future in perspective. Here, we see that all we ever wanted and needed are in this nowness and always have been.

This can take practice. Once again, we don’t have to know how. We just need to have the desire to learn. Every time we turn our attention to this or get quiet for even a few seconds, we are declaring our desire and willingness to learn. This call for help is never left unanswered.

Just in case you need a permission slip. It’s okay to rest. In fact, it’s not only okay; it’s one of the most important things we can do.

If I’m too busy, I feel like I didn’t accomplish anything meaningful. The periods when I get quiet and listen within accomplish more than all the busyness.

These periods aren’t just self-indulgent, nor are they being lazy. No. Not in the slightest. I’ve found that these periods of quiet listening and inner communion (some call it prayer) inform everything.

You don’t have to spend long hours doing this. What is actually more helpful is to spend many very short periods of even a minute or less throughout the day. And don’t worry if nothing seems to happen when you do this.

Gut feelings, inner guidance, inner wisdom, intuition, inner GPS, instincts, a 6th sense, and the Holy Spirit are just a few terms given for the inner knowing that guides us and that we can always trust to lead us in the very best way. It has a much larger perspective we simply can’t see through human awareness. The more we listen to it, the more we trust it, and the clearer it becomes. Continue Reading »

I thought I’d share a little unicorn wisdom today.

People can believe whatever they want about you, but it’s always your choice to agree with them or not.

If someone says something about me that isn’t true, I try to look at it like this: If someone said I was covered in chicken feathers, would I get upset? I know I’m not covered in chicken feathers, so I would walk on without a second thought. (Probably laughing at how ridiculous that suggestion is.)

I can’t do anything about their belief. What I would need to be more concerned with is if I started trying to pluck my feathers.

So if someone doesn’t believe in you, just say, “What the cluck,” and fly on.

Happy New Year!

Here’s a little secret: However you want to see yourself, see others through that light. If you want kindness, give kindness. If you want love, give love. Whatever you want for yourself, give that to others, and you will find yourself basking in the light of what you gave.

We are One. What you give to others, you are giving to yourself…always. We cannot escape what we give. What you give to yourself, you give to all. Be willing and determined to look on everyone with kinder, gentler eyes in 2024, and you will see yourself in that same light.

Don’t worry. You don’t have to know how to do this; you only have to recognize that it’s what you want and be willing to learn.