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I felt a deep sense of discontent. There was a hole that nothing seemed to fill. I had literally searched everywhere for some sense of, well, I didn’t even know what I was searching for; I just wanted to feel something other than various degrees of the same misery. Every time I set my sights on a direction, I thought, “THIS is the way!” but I eventually ended up feeling disappointed yet again. It was like they all ended the same way–like sand in my hand.

I searched everywhere, but they all eventually had the same result. There was only one place Continue Reading »

I don’t know about you, but I can sometimes forget that progress isn’t usually made by sitting around waiting for giant leaps but by being willing to consistently take very small steps.

When we take tiny steps, it can sometimes seem like we aren’t making any progress, and then, Continue Reading »

The more comfortable we become with the unknown, the more life becomes a miraculous adventure. The known is necessarily just a repeat of the past. For something new to enter (the unknown), we have to make room for it.

This is one of the hardest things for us to do, but with practice, we begin to see that we can safely let go of the past (what we know). What we find instead is everything we have ever longed for but never found in the past that we were clinging to.

There were six kids in ​my​ family​ growing up​–three girls and three boys. I am the youngest girl. ​One of my sisters has always worked towards some goal​ from a very young age. ​Everything centered around the goal. She was miserable in the process and made everyone miserable around her.

I remember thinking that ​it would be better once she achieved the goal. But alas, once that Continue Reading »

I’m taking a much-needed day of meditation, rest, reading, writing, and reflection. This might include bubbles. I love do-nothing-days. All the important things get done.

Never stop believing in magic and miracles; they are all around if we look for them. Be determined to see them today.

How? You might ask. We can begin by simply consciously acknowledging that they are always present and available to us throughout the day. (Even if you don’t really believe it yet.)

This is not to say that we Continue Reading »

We can all use a little faithlift sometimes, but what is faith?

We always put faith in something; when I sit in a chair, I have faith that it will hold me up. My faith isn’t blind faith; it is based on my many experiences of sitting in chairs.

We can sometimes put faith in the darkness of problems, suffering, and pain. When we’ve experienced a lot of these, it’s hard not to do this, so we need new experiences, light experiences, to learn that there is something else we can have faith in. 



To have true faith, we need to have experiences of that light; otherwise, it’s blind faith and more “wishcraft” than faith. We hope and wish the Sun will rise but stay planted in a dark cave where the Sun’s light does us little good.

There’s no shame in not yet having direct experiences we can put faith in; we all have to start somewhere. But blind faith can be a hindrance because we can tell ourselves it is enough—that we don’t have to go beyond this to direct experiences.

So, how do you have experiences that lead to true faith? At first, you will just be paying lip service to it, but that’s okay. You can start with one simple idea: “Please show me how to see the light that is always shining right here and now. I don’t see this right now and haven’t experienced it yet, but I want to.” 

You will be led.

With direct experiences comes faith so that even in the midst of what appears as complete darkness, we can see the light, and that light dispels the darkness.

If I give the impression this is always easy, don’t believe me; it’s sometimes effortless, and other times, it requires everything you have to hold to the light while that darkness seems to close in on you. I know that darkness cannot stand where light is truly acknowledged and allowed to enter, so every bit of effort in this direction is worth it.

Always remember that you have to crack an egg to get to the good stuff. 

Your beautiful colors cannot be erased, no matter what. No. Matter. What. And sometimes, we see them more clearly when we break open.

When I posted this before, someone commented that they didn’t understand “my obsession with breaking.” I write about breaking fairly often because it’s usually when we break that our greatest opportunity for spiritual growth is at hand. As long as things are “good,” we are generally content with the status quo and usually don’t look any deeper. It’s usually only when we are brought to our knees with some challenge that we become motivated and willing to deep dive, and this is where we find real and lasting purpose, joy, and happiness.

Breaking isn’t bad; however much it can feel like crap, it’s often the beginning of real spiritual growth and the opportunity to truly blossom.

I need this today. I’ve been in the midst of the craziest, most challenging move (to Napa Valley) I’ve ever experienced. I’m taking my first real rest day today, and I’m not sure I remember how to do that. Gasp!

Rest. Lay down your struggles and rest. If only for a moment. You are loved and cared for beyond comprehension. Right here. Right now. No matter what it might look like, this is still the only truth. Rest.

Your heart is always singing this song to you and only wants you to hear its sweet melody. It will never stop singing to you. Nothing you can do or ever have done could change this.

How do you rest your mind? There are many, many ways to do this, but one way is this: Continue Reading »