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I know how hard it can be to let go. No matter how much we hear it, it doesn’t seem to help us release our tight grasp on so many things. We know we need to do it, but how?

I cannot say this enough: We do not need to know how to do something that we still need to learn how to do. We just need to recognize that doing it serves us and that we really want to do it. The “how” will begin to show up. The key is to see that it’s what we want, even in the tiniest measure; we need to see that hanging on doesn’t serve us.

It’s the craziest thing: We often believe that we are supposed to know how to do everything, and when we don’t know, we tend to panic, feel helpless, and often think something is wrong with us. How could we know how to do something we’ve never done before? How could we already know something completely new to us?

I find it helpful to remind myself of this often. I will look straight at the situation or circumstance and say, “I don’t know what to do or how to see this differently, and that’s okay. I want to learn. I am willing to learn, and that’s all I need to do.” I trust that I will be led by the wisdom that lives in all of us. I’ve actually come to see that not knowing is better because now I’m in a position to learn, grow and have a different experience than what I found in the past. 

One thing I’ve noticed: When I do this, it never looks like I imagined it would. It can’t; otherwise, it would have been something I already knew. It’s always new and different because it’s something I didn’t already know. 

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Autumn is one of my favorite seasons; the beauty in change is so evident, and as the trees release their leaves, blanketing the ground with color, I am always reminded of the importance of letting go. (more…)

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The mountain air filled my lungs with each breath as I walked the upward, sloping path dotted with wildflowers. Directed in the quiet of meditation, I watched the scene unfold as I approached the plateau where I was to meet myself.

Tears had burned my face for months; there was a ceaseless sense of emptiness, loneliness, and a profound sense of despair. I had experienced many challenges, but nothing as all-encompassing as this darkness that pervaded my being; I had never felt so utterly disillusioned and lost. It seemed that everywhere I turned and everywhere that I once found even the slightest sense of solace in the past, I found a door slamming against my battered being instead.

“Why don’t you try looking within?” A friend suggested kindly, probably exhausted by my incessant moans. At first, I didn’t think this would offer any real solution, but I knew one thing was sure, I had tried everything I knew throughout my life thus far, and the many efforts had led me to where I was…to this emptiness. At least going inward was something that I had not yet attempted. “What do I have to lose?” I reasoned inwardly. (more…)

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I have gotten stuck in how I think things should have been and how they shouldn’t. Many of us have ideas of how life is supposed to look and how people in various roles in our lives should act, but I’ve found that this often leads to deep disappointment and despair. (more…)

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I’m going to deep dive a little here this morning. If this makes zero sense to you, that’s okay. Don’t try to force it, but if you feel moved, just sit with it.

One of the hardest things, or rather, one of the strangest things that happens as we evolve spiritually, is that we begin to see problems as opportunities. I don’t mean this as some sort of platitude, but literally and sincerely.

It can sometimes take a minute for me to see this when problems arise, but then it’s like something flips inside, and I see things from what seems like a completely opposite perspective. It’s like a little click takes place within that clears the clouds away. What I see then is always unexpected, fresh, and new. The unknown becomes known.

These things we call problems are like false concepts that bubble to the surface of the movie called our lives for only one purpose–to be healed. They suggest something that isn’t true, but that seems very true. Just like it looks like the world is flat, that the trees die in the winter, and the many other suggestions in the world appear to be true but aren’t.

The truth is always that we are one and are indescribably beautiful and innocent in this shared oneness, however much it might appear otherwise. These “problems” that would always suggest that this is not the truth are opportunities because they would show us where we have denied this eternal beauty in ourselves and others, and now have another opportunity to choose again.

Don’t worry about how to do this. In fact, the more we can become comfortable with the idea that we don’t need to know how, the more clear it all becomes.

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It can certainly look like some people are anything but a blessing. When I am willing to open myself up to the idea that everything is a blessing in some way, I find my greatest challenges often transform into the greatest blessings.
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