Princess Sassy Pants & Co.™

I know how hard it can be to let go. No matter how much we hear it, it doesn’t seem to help us release our tight grasp on so many things. We know we need to do it, but how?

I cannot say this enough: We do not need to know how to do something that we still need to learn how to do. We just need to recognize that doing it serves us and that we really want to do it. The “how” will begin to show up. The key is to see that it’s what we want, even in the tiniest measure; we need to see that hanging on doesn’t serve us.

It’s the craziest thing: We often believe that we are supposed to know how to do everything, and when we don’t know, we tend to panic, feel helpless, and often think something is wrong with us. How could we know how to do something we’ve never done before? How could we already know something completely new to us?

I find it helpful to remind myself of this often. I will look straight at the situation or circumstance and say, “I don’t know what to do or how to see this differently, and that’s okay. I want to learn. I am willing to learn, and that’s all I need to do.” I trust that I will be led by the wisdom that lives in all of us. I’ve actually come to see that not knowing is better because now I’m in a position to learn, grow and have a different experience than what I found in the past. 

One thing I’ve noticed: When I do this, it never looks like I imagined it would. It can’t; otherwise, it would have been something I already knew. It’s always new and different because it’s something I didn’t already know.