Princess Sassy Pants & Co.™

There were six kids in ​my​ family​ growing up​–three girls and three boys. I am the youngest girl. ​One of my sisters has always worked towards some goal​ from a very young age. ​Everything centered around the goal. She was miserable in the process and made everyone miserable around her.

I remember thinking that ​it would be better once she achieved the goal. But alas, once that goal was reached, there was another one.​..and another one.​ At one point, I began to see that this ​may never change​. Much later in life, it was clear that even after she had achieved so much, there was yet another future goal and that she was still pretty miserable​. ​So much so that we eventually stopped communicating altogether. It’s sad as I actually never saw her happy with any of the goals she reached.

This was a great lesson for me early on and a clear example of what not to do. I’ve learned to hold onto future goals very lightly as ​I, too,​ found that once I reach them, they don’t offer the promised happiness but ​often ​end up feeling like sand in my hands.

When do I actually live my life? I am always living right now, and if there will be some change in the future, it will take place now. We actually never reach a future,​ for there is simply only the continuity of now.

I must say that living from the perspective of ​”​now​”​ really has little to do with circumstances and conditions,​ for these might not attest to anything close to joyful at times.  Whatever the circumstances, I have found I can go within with the decision to experience joy no matter how things might look or how I might feel at the start. Sometimes, this happens quickly, and sometimes, it takes some digging. When I do this, I eventually see those circumstances and conditions in a whole new ​(and, yes, joyful) ​light.