I’m going to go a little deeper this morning and share a little secret that might be hard to accept at first but that will give you a deep sense of freedom if you can accept it. It is this: The only pain we feel is the pain of choosing to withhold love.
In the world, as it appears, it seems like we will be fulfilled and happy if we can get love and that we are unhappy if we don’t get it. This puts us in a position of weakness because this seems to be out of our control. We want others to love us. We think we need others to love us but can’t make anyone love us.
When we begin to go deep into spiritual truth, we begin to see that this isn’t true. We are love; the very nature of our being is love however much it might seem otherwise. So when we try to withhold love, we are trying to be something we are not, which is experienced as pain.
Here’s the tricky part: This is not saying we need to love how things and people appear to be. That’s really not possible as appearances can look pretty awful, but there is an awareness that we can enter where we begin to see with a different set of “eyes,” if you will. With these eyes, which are a spiritual awareness, we see or become aware of the substance of everything beyond how things appear to be. This is so indescribably lovely that we want nothing more than shower our love on everything. We shower that love that we are on this loveliness and find it also pours on us. This is the realm of miracles. This is where we finally feel at home. It’s here that we realize that this has always been what we were searching for and that it was within us all along.
This isn’t something that can be described in words, and neither is it something that can be understood with the human mind or intellect. It must be experienced to be understood, but there’s nothing more rewarding than discovering it.
Princess Sassy Pants & Co.™ 
Judging from their behaviour, loving oneself is currently out of reach. What then?
Thank you for your insight.
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You said it, “Judging from their behavior.” As long as we are judging from behavior or how things look to human senses, good or bad, you are absolutely right that this is out of reach. In order to find something, anything, we must look to where it exists. If we look to where it’s not and keep expecting to see it, we will feel a sense of deep despair.
The good news that I’m trying to tell you is that it is available and can be found, but you MUST look to where it is. Where is it? Go within and ask to be led. We don’t have to already know what we are here to learn. We don’t have to already understand what these experiences will teach us. Go within, and you can even acknowledge that you have no idea what this crazy princess is saying if that’s what you feel, and simply ask for help in seeing where love does exist right this moment…and always.
You may see something right away. You might not, but the way will open up if you persist. This isn’t fast-food spirituality, so it’s helpful to recognize that persistence and dedication are necessary at the outset. We wouldn’t expect to play a concerto the first time we sit down at a piano, but somehow we often believe that if our entire awareness doesn’t change in an instant, it doesn’t work. It can change very quickly, but more often than not, it takes some time.
It’s not only okay not to already know, it’s most helpful to accept that you don’t know and don’t need to already know what this will reveal to you. Much love.
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Thank you Jane l needed to read this.Sometimes it is hard to do when you are going through something hard but it is always the right thing to do.God is Love and he tells us to love one another. Amen 🙏🏻
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Hi Pamela, I just want to clarify a little: This isn’t something we can do humanly; our part is to be willing to see through the eyes of love. It’s not that we seek to love those who we view as bad or less than; it’s a type of seeing where we become aware of the presence of love beyond these appearances. Loving what we see when we’re aware of this isn’t hard to do. The only thing that is hard is not seeing this. It can help to get quiet and simply ask for help in seeing through the eyes of love instead of what we think we are seeing. Hope that makes sense.
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Love this.
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