Whether it’s some sort of trauma or just a period in life of uncertainty when the old is falling away and the new isn’t quite yet visible, feeling lost or sad doesn’t make us weak or (gasp) “negative.” In our culture now there’s a big emphasis on being “positive” but there are periods in life of growth and change that often don’t appear positive, and in the climate of “always be positive” there seems to be even less cultural support as we pass through these.
I’ve walked through some very profound periods of darkness in my life. There were some that I wondered if would make it through but I wouldn’t change them in retrospect. It’s not always easy shedding an old life that we’ve outgrown but these are usually times of tremendous growth however much they might not feel good or look pretty…or positive.
I’ve been feeling a little lost and sad and I’ve been through these transitions so many times, I recognize the signs–something is transforming and it’s time to go into my cocoon a bit. These periods are made so much harder when we fight them and continue to try to operate according to our old life believing something has gone wrong. Our new legs are that of toddler when we’re entering the new and running the marathon of our old life just isn’t going to work–it just makes us feel more afraid and even less capable. I’ve found the more I can trust, allow, be gentle with myself and go inward, the easier I pass through these births.
If your life looks like a mess and you feel lost and confused, something new might be birthing in your life. Breath. Be gentle with yourself. Cry. Take time to rest. Meditate. But most of all don’t judge yourself–this is the time you need love and understanding and it’s okay to give that to yourself. xo
Princess Sassy Pants & Co.™ 
You have a wise insight into the seasons of life. Thank you!
I love your illustrations.
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Thank you for these words. I’ve often found it counterproductive to try to “snap out of” my times of challenge. Your words remind me that those challenges are there to help me grow and that trying to overcome the challenge rather than gently accept it only stunts my growth. Thank you for the reminder that it’s okay to feel lost sometimes.
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So true
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So well stated. Cocoon away & know that many are cheering you on as we cocoon a bit ourselves. January is the perfect month for it- or even February, don’t cha think?
Cocoon, hibernate, contemplate, be.
Just be still & know that I am God.
So poweful to know it’s perfectly fine to just be.
Bless you
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Your words and artwork are helping so many! I love you and your inspirational words of encouragement!
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I really needed to hear that. I am transitioning into a life. Leaving the old behind. Ridding myself of relationships with others who are disrespectful or rude. I try to love everyone but there comes a time where, well, simply put, you’re not appreciated. Moving on is a good thing. Not returning “Happy New Year’s” texts from those who are so self absorbed they only think of you, with an ‘occasion’. I will now be in control of my destiny and the people whom I let into my ‘bubble’ will be premium grade. Changing the dynamics of my social circle and enhancing a better standard of living is of the utmost importance. Thank you for all that you do! Much appreciated.
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I Love the idea that “It’s Ok Not To Be Ok”
But when it happens to me, I struggle with not being OK
It really takes a lot of work to be positive~
Kindness to yourself & others is key….
Thanks for all you do for US!!
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It’s definitely okay to feel down once in a while. Everyone does. I’m glad you can pick yourself back up as well. When I start to have those feelings of sadness or not being good enough, I turn to the Psalms and other books of the Bible. I get a renewed sense of being knowing I’m not the only one that goes through depression or gets sad about the things around me. David did. Moses did. Solomon did. Even Jesus did. What’s important is that’s when they all turned to our Father for HIS support and strength. Knowing HE’s right here with me makes all the difference. He’s never lied to me; never let me down. He provides for my every need.. not all my wants… all my needs. His love is always right on time. He works through people like you. Your drawings and comments help give hope and comfort. Keep your chin up honey. Better days are ahead. Love YOU. (This has 2 meanings. 1) we love you for who you are. 2) it’s okay for you to love YOU. No one should ever take that away from you)
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beautiful! and i am one who pretends all is good when the world is falling down around me. Hard to accept that..however I hold your words close to my heart
❤
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Beautifully said ❤
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Thank you, it’s good to know we are not alone. Thank you for being YOU. I always say, it’s hard for cheerful people to have great days everyday.
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Thank you for your soulful words….just what I needed in my transition….just like you wrote the words for me too…
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AMEN!!!!!!
It is the only way to get through, be kind to ourselves. All healing is different. You put it out ther beautifully, thank you
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Thank you
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❤️❤️❤️
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