Princess Sassy Pants & Co.™

Peace is a choice. I’m in no way suggesting to stuff down resentments or to be afraid of them, but it is important to get very clear that we can’t hold on to them AND have peace.

It can help to hold them right up next to each other in your mind’s eye with the understanding that peace is a choice you can make, but you can’t have both, for they deny one another.

Do I want peace or this resentment? What has this resentment really given me? What do I gain by holding onto this? More importantly, what am I losing by holding onto it?

It can also be helpful to sit quietly and listen within. Tell yourself that for the two or five minutes, you will set your resentments in a pile as they come to mind but that you can pick them back up when you are done if you want to.

If you aren’t ready to choose peace, don’t fight yourself, but try again later. It’s okay. You can even inwardly ask for help to see that peace is what you really want so that the choice becomes easy.

Peace isn’t something we can or need to fake, and there’s no shame in having resentments; we all have crap that needs to be healed. The first step is recognizing that we need healing and that we want it more than whatever we believe hanging onto resentments is giving us.

This practice can kick up some deeply buried crap, but the truth is that nobody and nothing can take our peace from us. It is always our choice to keep it or give it away. We always hold the key.

You had the power all along.