Princess Sassy Pants & Co.™

Looking to get love doesn’t fill us up; we feel fulfilled when we give love.

What most of us have come to call love is really more a contract based on expectations and reciprocity. You do this for me, and I’ll do that for you, and if you break the unspoken contract, well, that’s when things get a bit hairy.

Whenever we try to get love, we feed the idea that we are incomplete and lack something. When we do this, we feel a sense of need and lack. Not fun. When we give love without expectation, we are actually acknowledging our own completion and wholeness; in doing this, we begin to feel more complete. 

I know it can seem counterintuitive to say that if you feel like you need something or lack something, the best thing to do is give it. It’s something you have to practice for yourself and see. It’s rather like a siphon that pulls forth what’s always been inside so that we can become aware of it. The love we seek “out there” lives in our hearts, and when we begin to pour it out, we become aware of what we’ve always had.

Sometimes, it’s easier to see this when we pour our love out to pets and children because we generally don’t have the same expectations as we do with adults.

Do some pouring and find out if you don’t feel more full than you did before you gave.