In a culture focused on “being productive” and “getting things done,” the idea of doing nothing is not one that is particularly supported. “Don’t just sit there. Do something,” is somewhat of a cultural mantra.
On the contrary, it was only after I learned how to do nothing that an unimaginable world opened to me. Through the practice of meditation and quiet, inward listening, I discovered the very treasures that had alluded me with all my busy doings.
It was only after I took off my bull horns that I wore as I ran headlong from one goal to another that I found a real and satisfying direction. Each goal that I pursued up to that point invariably ended up feeling like sand in my hand at some point. Finally, I began to see a pattern so when yet more hopes were dashed that I might find some sense of fulfillment and satisfaction, I decided that because I had repeatedly found myself in this same position, I had no reason to believe that pursuing yet another goal would end differently. I did not know another way and had no clue what to do next–not a comfortable place to be. I concluded that since I didn’t know what to do (apart from continuing to do what I had been doing for years to no avail) the best thing might be to do nothing. This decision changed my life.
Doing nothing in our culture isn’t exactly celebrated. Culture: “Hey Jane! Great to see you! So what have you been doing?” Me: “Nothing.” Culture: “Gasp!” It’s not exactly good party conversation.
I’m in another place where “doing nothing” seems the wisest course (and avoiding party conversation). From this “doing nothing” place, I find that I begin to recharge, empty out, and provide a space for the seeds of new ideas and a new direction to be planted. It’s never what I would call a comfortable place to be but the alternative to me is far less comfortable–just doing for the sake of doing.
So here I sit. Still carrying out daily responsibilities but with a new a new mantra, “Don’t just do something. Sit there.”
AMEN. I call it refreshing myself. Taking time away from the busyness of life to be quiet. Pray. Rest. Get all of the ‘stuff’ in my head out or calmed down. Refocus. Feels so good afterwards. Everything seems clearer and brighter and easier.
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You are so right! Stop, slow down and recharge and most of all rest!
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I can do this–but feel bad after as I have stuff to do and should be doing
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I was like that years ago. Remember if you don’t take time for yourself and perform self-care, you will be no good to anyone ❤ It's hard to do at first, I understand.
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Loved reading this! I am going to try it.
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Loved your take on do nothing!
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Perfect! I’ve learned this, too❤️
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